I will be discussing narcissism the trait and not narcisstic personality disorder which is a diagnosis made by a professional using criteria found on the DSM-5.

Narcissism is protective

Narcissism like most human traits is protective. It keeps our head above the muddy waters of self-loathing by reminding us at the end of the day we are good people and are deserving of good things.

Healthy Narcissism says:

• I make mistakes but I’m still a good person.

• I am worthy of admiration and love.

• I aspire for a greater self, and I want to reach my goals.

• I also hope to help others along the way.

• I prioritize my self-care so I can better care for others.

Unhealthy Narcissism says:

• I never make mistakes because I am a good person.

• I demand admiration because I am the better person.

• I will reach all my goals and am willing to do it at the expense of others.

• I don’t care if others fail, I only care that I succeed.

Do you notice the differences and similarities?

I think a person with a healthy self-image is able to see all of who they are honestly - both flaws and positive traits alike - and say, this is who I am and I love that person looking back at me.

My work

Yoojin Nam LMFT is the author of Thinking to Feel. He has been providing psychotherapy for 7 years and is licensed to practice in CA & TX.

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Disclaimer: These posts are not a replacement for therapy. The information contained within is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be therapeutic advice.